Why should we remove toxic people from our lives?
The word 'toxic' says it all. Toxic kills.
We have different phases in our lives and throughout these phases, we meet new people. Sometimes these simple acquaintances develop into friendship or if you're lucky enough; a relationship. But not everything has a happy ending to it. We all have a group of friends we hang out with or even if it's just a friend. We meet in school or work, we laugh over lunch, we chill out after school/work and sometimes, we have the best times of our lives with these people. However, as they always say; time will tell.
I, too, had my fair share of episodes. I've learned so much from all that was thrown at me and what I had to single-handedly and independently take in. At the beginning, I was afraid. I was so afraid of making mistakes, making wrong remarks, pulling off the wrong impression. I was afraid to be wrong. For a long period of time, I was living in someone else's shadow. I was always trying to be the best I can towards everyone I meet or with anyone I hung out with. I was 'the other friend' for most of my teenage life.
You see, when you're living the life of the shadow for so long, sometimes you won't even notice how obnoxious some people can be, just because you feel that it's better to laugh it off and be neutral. You won't realise the people who you thought was good for you, go behind your back and try to take you down. Because you think that being the "bigger person" will make you "cool" to be with. The truth is, you're only the bigger person when you start stepping up. You're only the bigger person when you start realising that you are your own hero. And when that happens, you will naturally start removing these toxic people from your life.
Toxic people are like drugs. You consume them because it feels good. Then they consume you because they have the higher power when your mind is under their control. They can do whatever they want and you'll still not revolt because you think that you have to do what they tell you to so you can be the "perfect person".
Well, has anyone told you that drugs are the best things for you on this freakin' planet?
My point exactly.
Why would you allow yourself to be ringed by people who would only take away all that self love and sense of self? Why would you allow yourself to be unnerved by people who doesn't give two hoots about you and only have themselves in their self-absorbed minds all the time? Why would you allow others to not be kind to you?
We are human beings. We were brought into this world to live, not to survive. There's a vast difference between these two factors and if you can't tell them apart, it's about time you do. Everyday of our lives, we learn something new. We make mistakes and we fall. But all we gotta do is stand up, dust off all that dirt off ourselves and take another step forward. Nobody in this world is flawless because that is scientifically and theoretically impossible.
Live, not survive.
REMOVING toxic people is like going on a detox diet. You take in all the delectable and healthy greens, fruits and all that fancy protein stuff, and out goes the...well, shit. After a crash course of a detox diet, you're a new and improved human with clean intestines and a fast moving metabolism because you got all that shit out of your system and you're now ready for a new healthy and junk-free lifestyle.
My other point exactly.
We deserve to be surrounded by people who genuinely care for us, people who love us unconditionally and we love them back just the way they do. We deserve people who encourage us and support us of our life decisions. We deserve people who will welcome us with open arms no matter how bad our day has been or no matter what mistakes we've made. Because everybody needs a friend. Everybody needs love. Everyone needs valuable moments in their lives to cherish because that's what life is all about. Be the blessing that that someone needs, and soon enough, they'll be yours.
Love,
Louisa